Attention Seeking Behavior

I have been going out dancing several times per month for several months this year. I have noticed a strange behavior among women:

1. If you ignore them, they want you.
2. If you give them attention, they flee.

It's a sad thing because I am only at clubs to dance, not too hook up. I then have a lot of female attention at the clubs. But in my personal life if I bring a friend to the club with me, and tell her that I am into her, then the next day she is saying something like "I am not ready for a relationship." If I say nothing, she continues to be into me, as long as I am as emotionally neglectful towards her as I can manage.

The worst part about all of this is making women I like jealous in order to get them to pay attention to me. If someone who has given me the "I am not ready for a relationship" line sees me dancing with other women, then they usually warm back up to me right away. However if feels awful to manipulate people like that, and I suppose it's the man's fantasy to have a woman who genuinely likes him for who he is, not as a trophy for a woman in a status competition with other women.

I get it, it's evolutionary behavior: women are better at using their intuition to make decisions, and part of that intuition is looking at other women's opinions, especially with mate selection. However, this then creates huge moral dilemmas for any man involved: men are forced to be emotionally distant and manipulative because that is what women crave. The alternative is to be a good person, and apparently that means being a bachelor.

Notice the overt sin this requires on the part of the Woman:

1. 10 commandment violation: Covetousness
2. Golden Rule violations: A. going after other women's men. B. Abandoning men who are more than good enough for someone like you, but you would rather die alone with your bones licked clean by your cat than have a husband night quite as amazing as you had dreamed up for yourself. The problem here is they have to die alone also, because of your pride.
3. The relevant deadly sins are: pride, lust, and envy.

It would serve our society well to have women as a whole consider their behavior in these regards and conduct themselves better. The only real solution on the table is good old fashioned morals and monogamy. It also has me concerned that various sexual problems in society once thought to be caused by men, may in fact be more caused by women, such as polygamy for example: