I recently made SoberClubbing.com which just goes to my Facebook group. Why? It's basically for two reasons, a health/social reason, and then a reason specific to LDS culture.
The health/social reason is: 1) dancing is fun + 2) Dancing is healthy = people SHOULD go dancing a lot more often. Because drinking is 100% heinous, people should be doing this dancing WITHOUT alcohol. Sober Clubbing is one of those things that could make the world a much better place for everyone.
Personally what is happening on my various dance adventures is I am not getting to know not the other regular dancers at the dance clubs, but instead I am getting to know DJs, rappers, bar tenders and club staff, because THEY are the ones who can REMEMBER me. What about the regular attendee dancers? Well they drink, so their memories of previous adventures are spotty at best, and they often have zero recollection of my legendary antics.
In the LDS community we get high school age kids going to Church dances at least once per month. We show them how fun it is to have a sober dance. Up until around the time of 2020 the Young Single Adults used to continue that tradition in this area every single weekend, which is where I accumulated most of my dance experience in the 90's. But now the older-single-adults are having dances more frequently than the Young Single adults, and it's only about once per month like with the Youth/high-school-age.
Here's the problem: if dancing is good for you, and dancing is fun, what are the married couples supposed to do? I have interviewed the elderly on this topic and discovered that in ancient times the LDS Church had all ages dances. Furthermore it appears this tradition may still persist to this day in some parts of Latin America. However I live in the USA, so what gives?
There are various possible solutions, but ultimately if the Seattle Area LDS community is not going to set up some kind of every-weekend 18+ or all ages dance night for all members regardless of relationship status, there is a huge social void in the LDS community. We were all raised to dance, and that was a great way to be raised.
LDS or not, we all need to continue dancing, for both our health and our entertainment. My plan is to get a group of like minded individuals together and go enjoy night clubs without drinking, and it's a plan that is starting to work:
